Being prepared to defend yourself is a mentality of planning for the unexpected and realizing that you cannot predict the future, but you can plan ahead.
Doing any less is just going to compromise you.
Of course, you’ll never learn all there is to know about the ever-changing scene of personal defense and firearms, but it’s not that difficult to grasp the basics.
It is important to gain a solid understanding of what you can and can’t do first.
Keep in mind that anything you choose to fully incorporate into your life will potentially be subjected to scrutiny by your friends and family even if only comes in the form of curious questions. Regardless of the nature of these inquiries, you should be prepared to eloquently explain your reasons for your heavy decision.
Consider the testimony of CCW permit holder Kurt Peterson related by author Tim Schmidt in his lifestyle article “Kurt Peterson” on USConcealedcarry.com:
“Interestingly, handguns never crossed my mind until a day about 10 or more years ago when my uncle told me that he regularly carried a handgun, which rather shocked me. He said that he felt he had to protect himself and his family as he had a friend in the same sort of business that he was in, who was shot point blank in the back of his head one day while out changing a tire on his vehicle (Read more at USConcealedCarry.com)”
The only certainty in your future is that it will be unpredictable. You’ll never know for sure when you might need a firearm for self-defense and that being the case, the only logical course is to ensure you are carrying whenever it is possible and legal.
By choosing to be armed and practiced, you are taking responsibility for the fact that your future remains uncertain. It also means that you might have the need to use deadly force to protect yourself and your family.
This is a sizeable responsibility and some feelings of being intimidated are normal. The solution to this uncertainty and the uncomfortable feelings is to train and educate yourself as much as possible.
Through much of our self defense training, we persist with the idea that we’ll be alone and defending only ourselves. This is often the case, but stop and think for a moment how often you are out in public with your significant other, children, or friends.
It’s probably more than you realize.
These other people can be viewed as an additional burden to protect or they can be considered assets that you can incorporate into a team that works together to eliminate a threat.
The key to this tactic working out is talking about it and practicing beforehand.
Usually, the biggest hurdle to overcome is communication.
Whether it’s your significant other or children, it’s important to be able to understand each other as things progress.
Any dangerous encounter is completely unique and has aspects that cannot be predicted. As a team, you must be able to adapt and think on your feet as things happen.
You only have two eyes and those are pointed forwards. The beauty of teaming up with another person or more is they can use their eyes to scan areas you cannot.
Author Kathy Jackson talks about this in her article “It’s You and Me Against the World” on USConcealedcarry.com:
“This becomes even more critical during an active encounter when the tendency is to really tunnel in on the known threat. If your partner is holding a criminal at gunpoint, your job as back-up would be to force your eyes away from the criminal and instead keep close watch on the surrounding area to see if he has a buddy lurking in the shadows. (Read more at USConcealedCarry.com)”
You will probably feel frustrated at first when you practice operating as a team. The communication might not be as effective as you’d like.
To help work through the process, consider trading places and switching up who is acting as the leader. This will help you see things from the other person’s perspective.
Discovering your communication weaknesses is helpful in that you will know about these issues beforehand instead of becoming surprised by a breakdown happening during a potential armed encounter.
Communication is a two-way street with information passing to and from people. A dictatorship style of leading is not as effective because the information generally only flows one way and prevents the leader from being as effective as they could be.
And finally, involving others in the process of self-defense will help empower and give them a sense of purpose instead of panicking and focusing all of their attention on you to save the day.